How to Make a New Lifestyle Sticks (Even It Seems Impossible)

By Dean Yeong on May 9, 2016

I was overweight since the age of 8, for a long 10-years. I never thought I would be able to lose weight after a few years of living as a lonely unattractive kid. I never believe I can turn my health around from almost obese to a healthy figure among my friends and peers.

At the age of 14, I decided to change this. I decided to start doing something about it. I started with doing sit-ups (because that’s all I knew) – 100 of them every single day.

Yea, many argue that sit-ups don’t work, but I’m not writing about how to lose weight here. During the stage of overweight (nearly obese), any movement works. It’s far better than doing nothing at all.

Then, I started playing basketball with my neighbors. And then, started hitting the gym (without any exercise knowledge). Slowly, I started to learn about proper weightlifting techniques and healthy diet. By the time, I was no longer overweight.

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Switching to a Healthy Lifestyle isn’t Easy

Now, I move from powerlifting training to gymnastics movements to explore my physical body in a different way. Those are years of journey from overweight to the present.

When I was sharing my story with my friends who wanted to lose weight, they got inspired and quickly started their new transformational plan. But never really able stick to the new lifestyle after some time of trying.

I believe most of us experience this; I do too, in other areas of my life. We all wanted to achieve something so bad, but yet it seems impossible to fully embrace the change required into our lifestyle.

Most habits that matter to our goals and success never tend to stick around, not long enough for us to see any result.

From my experience of the weight loss journey, there are many complex thoughts happened in my head. I made plans and failed to stick with them. Then I made plans again, and again. Slowly, I learned about exercise, diet, health and fitness.

And slowly, I have a better understanding of my own body, my abilities, and capabilities to perform. Rather making the thought process complicated, I decide to simplify all of them into one the most important part of the whole journey for you:

I define myself as a fit healthy man, and then only I decide what to do.

Defining Your Identity

In order to achieve any results, we first need to decide to do so. But decide to do something doesn’t always do the magic. Often time, we don’t do what we plan to do.

To go into a deeper level, rather than deciding what to do, decide who you are. Define and design your identity from your inner-self but not from the external results, because our appearance and result are the end product of our identity.


We are what we defined we are

Want to get into the best shape of your life? Then define your identity as a person who workout regularly, practice healthy balanced diet, and decide to stick with that.

Want to do better financially? Then decide to become a person with financial intelligence, who budget expenses in a regular basis and never make emotional purchases.

Want to become a better parent? Then allocate a good amount of time for your children, learn how to communicate with kids and manage your temper the right way because that’s what a good parent do.

Want to have a better relationship? Then let’s become a person who focuses on giving rather than receiving, spend the time to understand each other’s rules and always seek ways to surprise your spouse.

Want to improve your skills (in sport, writing, design, or even entrepreneurship)? Then understand what professionals in your industry do, find a role model and tune your identity to do what they do that is practical for you in the current time.

These are not the best reason to do so yet.

By defining the right identity for yourself, you’re not acting based on the results. Which means your behaviors and actions are much more consistent without affecting by external factors that vary the results.

You will be able to gain a better clarity of your purpose, your thoughts, your behavior and your actions. Lock your sight on the long-term results and never falls into the traps of illusional success and tiny setbacks.

Observe Your Strengths

Now, you may be questioning this.

Let’s take a look on your strengths rather than your weaknesses. Think of one of your strengths now. It can be anything: good at teaching? Dealing with customers? Or making new friends?

Now if I ask you why you’re good at those, or how could you do that, you might not even have an answer for that. It simply planted so deep in the back of your head that you’re never bad at those.

That’s the power of identity; it leads to your actions and behaviors, so your appearance and final results.

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